Take a few minutes to do the following exercise, which will help you re-frame your desire's without trying to control another's behavior:
- Think about a situation that makes you feel angry, sad, or scared. What about this situation do you wish was different? (i.e., I hate my job. My boss is a jerk.)
- Think about a situation that makes you happy. What elements of this situation do you want to keep?
- What do you want most right now? (i.e.,I wish my boss wasn't such a moron.)
- What do you really want most right now? (i.e., I want to work for a boss who appreciates me.)
